Love your perfect imperfections

Many days we are bombarded on social media with 100 ways to improve ourselves – how to be happy, lose weight, succeed at this or that, reach this goal, smash this target, be all the things. Life can feel like a contact sport! Change, improve, develop, progress – the culture of self-improvement is all-pervasive. Of course, this motivational culture can support us to reach for the stars – believe anything is possible. However, the flip side of this constant striving for perfection is an existential dissatisfaction – exhaustion, overwhelm – eating away at our self-esteem.

Now, I have nothing against a desire to learn and grow, but when it involves too much focus on what we feel is wrong with us, we risk rejecting parts of ourselves – what we perceive as our imperfections. Continue reading “Love your perfect imperfections”


Life is alchemical

Nature loves courage. You make the commitment, and nature will respond to that commitment by removing impossible obstacles. Dream the impossible dream and the world will not grind you under, it will lift you up. This is the trick. This is what all these philosophers who really counted, who really touched their alchemical gold, this is what they understood. This is the shamanic dance in the waterfall. This is how magic is done. By hurling yourself into the abyss and discovering it’s a feather bed. Terence McKenna

There are so many ways of awakening, or tuning in, or whatever we call it – committing to being open to some creative life force that is within us all – a way of being that is looking out wide-eyed through the curtain of our eyelashes at life and spotting the possibilities, trusting the flow, leaning into the magic, into the alchemy of life that allows us to feel its deep mystery, the call of the divine. It is when we open to this feeling that we can trust and hurl ourselves into the abyss – and experience the soft landing – the open arms that await us when we let go of control and allow life to happen for us.

This is real living and it may well be exquisitely painful sometimes but it is also exquisitely joyful. Because we feel the mystery of life – the alchemy of our souls. Synchronicities happen, serendipity is our soundtrack, we feel the soft velvet touch of presence caressing our dreams and whispering Yes.

Dare to Dream into 2019

Are you secretly already dreading setting New Year resolutions only to break them within days or weeks? Are you ready for something different, to go deeper?

Towards the end of each year, many of us turn (consciously or subconsciously) to reflecting on the past year’s successes and ‘failures’ and thinking about what we want for the year ahead. Often we use goals and New Year’s Resolutions to help us get to where we hope to get to in the year ahead. So often we have given up before we even begin…. reset the self-destruct button…

Well, I am done with all that and find out here about my Dare to Dream online retreat starting on 27 November…

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Be that one.

One tree can start a forest,
One bird can herald spring,
One smile can begin a friendship,
One hand can lift a soul,
One star can guide a ship at sea, 
One word can frame the goal,
One sunbeam can light a room,
One candle can wipe out darkness,
One laugh can conquer gloom,
One hope can raise our spirits,
One touch can show you care,
One voice can wake up everybody,
One life can make the difference.
Be that one.

-Author Unkown

I don’t care if the world knows what my secrets are

A friend shared Mary Lambert’s song Secrets with me this morning….  I’d never heard her before and wow I love it! So here I am sharing it with you: Mary Lambert – Secrets.

Have a listen,  but come back here as it set me off on some musings I would love to share with you.

So it got me to thinking about secrets, and how I love how Mary brings lightness to such a challenging subject – shame – the feeling that we need to keep parts of ourselves secret – the cause of so much pain for so many people. Especially young people.

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